They things faster than they can be assessed, as a way of pushing their agenda past other people’s examination or objections. 

If you’re feeling pressured, say something like, “I’m going to need to slow you down so I can make sense of what you’re saying.” Then, ask your questions. 

Carve out small windows of time between small talk and specific agenda points to find out what’s going on with and motivating the people you’re working with.

For example "how things are going for you — any changes since we last spoke, what your priorities are right now, and what are t...

1.After you “screw up” or say something you “shouldn’t have” – write down what you’ll say next time

2. Before and after going to an event or meeting, write down how you’re feeling, what makes you nervous and what you could do in the worst case scenario