Both are extremes that disrupt the conversation flow and can make interactions feel imbalanced, awkward, or emotionally disconnected.Oversharing might stem from a desire to bond quickly, while undersharing often comes from fear or shyness.Solutions: <ul><li>Mirror your communication to match the other person's energy and level of vulnerability.</li><li>Use the sliding door approach by offering open-ended cues about a potential tangent.﻿</li><li>Share to connect, not to unload feelings or keep everything inside. Ask yourself why the conversation is important and how best to connect.﻿</li></ul>

Oversharing or undersharing

This can make you feel limited, self-conscious, and embarrassed due to the fear of judgment regarding grammar, pronunciation, and vocabulary. This fear can overwhelm the brain, making communication difficult.Solutions:<ul><li>Focus on clarity, not perfection. </li><li>Impactful communication doesn't require fancy words or complicated sentences as long as your point is clear.</li><li>Practice speaking regularly, read books, and watch content in the language to build vocabulary. Confidence in communication comes from connection, not perfection</li></ul>

Not having a good hold over the language

Not everyone is a natural conversationalist and many people struggle with different aspects of communication. Their are several common problems faced in conversations and practical, psychology-backed ways to overcome them, which contribute to the process of mastering this skill.Here are the problems and their corresponding solutions:<a href="https://elevatedpath.substack.com/p/the-art-of-habits?r=5i6fxw">The Art of Habits Guide</a> (Its FREE)

Problems & Solutions For Mastering Conversations

Good conversations can change careers, relationships, confidence levels, and even lives overnight. By improving your communication and mastering conversations, your communication will not just improve but will transform. As a result, people will want to talk to you, they will remember you, and you will finally start getting the respect and the opportunities that you have always deserved

Benefits of Good Conversation

This passive stance often stems from a fear of rejection masked as indifference, particularly in people used to being approached, preventing real connection.Solutions:<ul><li>Flip the script and see initiating as a power move demonstrating leadership and social fluency.</li><li>Simple openers are enough; the goal is to be open to having a conversation, not necessarily to be impressive.</li></ul>

Ego getting in the way (e.g., not initiating conversations)

Passion can sometimes turn into intensity (speeding up, raising voice) without realizing it, potentially overwhelming or offending the other person.Solutions:<ul><li>Pause between sentences and take deep breaths to give your words more weight and allow the other person time to absorb them.</li><li>Try to match the other person's energy.</li><li>Acknowledge your excitement if you notice yourself becoming intense (e.g., "Sorry, I get excited about this topic")</li></ul>

Getting too excited or aggressive while making a point

This happens when something said hits a nerve, often due to personal emotional baggage or feeling misunderstood or threatened. This shifts the dynamic from listening to understand to reactingSolutions:<ul><li>Take a pause before reacting, perhaps by taking a few breaths.</li><li>Ask for clarity instead of immediately assuming bad intent (e.g., "Can you explain further?").</li><li>Remember that you always have the power to choose how you respond.</li><li>It's okay to wrap up the conversation if it becomes too charged, suggesting returning to it later.</li></ul>

Getting emotionally triggered or defensive

This quiet fear often stems from judging yourself too harshly or comparing your "behind the scenes" to others' "highlight reels". People often remember how you made them feel more than specific witty things you said.Solutions:<ul><li>Stop trying to be interesting and focus on being interested; cultivate curiosity about others.</li><li>Ask questions that go beyond the surface.</li><li>Be the most engaged person in the room.</li><li>Consume interesting content (books, articles, videos) to have more things to talk about.</li></ul>

Feeling boring or not interesting enough

This occurs when you miss non-verbal signals that indicate the other person is losing interest, feeling overwhelmed, or unsure how to respond, often becauseyou are caught up in your own thoughts.Solutions:<ul><li>Tune into body language and tone, watching for signs like glancing away, fidgeting, lack of eye contact, short replies, or a shift in posture. These are cues to adjust the conversation or exit gracefully.</li><li>Listen for conversational reciprocity, noting if the other person is matching your energy and enthusiasm and asking questions back. Develop your social radar﻿.</li></ul>

Misreading social cues

This is dominating the dialogue, often without bad intent, but it leaves others feeling unheard and invisible.Solutions:<ul><li>Regularly check your balance between speaking and listening.</li><li>Invite others to chime in.</li><li>Use the loop back rule after sharing something to ask others for their experience (e.g., "What about you?").</li><li>Avoid turning every story into a personal competition; focus on showing interest rather than trying to one-up others. Lead with curiosity, focusing on being interested instead of trying to be interesting.</li></ul>

Monopolizing the Conversation

Mastering conversations is a skill that can significantly improve various aspects of your life, including <ul><li>Careers </li><li>Relationships Confidence levels and </li><li>Even overall life circumstances. </li></ul>Learning how to hold a conversation well, you can get ahead of 90% of people. The goal of improving communication is to reach a point where <ul><li>People will want to talk to you</li><li>Remember you</li><li>You will feel more confident </li><li>Receive the respect and opportunities you deserve.</li></ul>

Mastering Conversations

Many people are taught how to listen politely but not how to end conversations, which can lead to the conversation dragging or feeling repetitive, potentially causing resentment or fatigue.Solutions:<ul><li>Have a few graceful exit lines prepared, such as needing to go to the washroom, mentioning mingling with others at an event, or politely suggesting you don't want to keep the other person.</li><li>Remember that you do not owe anybody unlimited access to your time or energy. A good conversation is measured by how pleasant and respectful it felt, not its length.</li></ul>

Not knowing how to exit a conversation gracefully

This often stems from psychological reasons like cognitive overload due to nervousness or perfection paralysis, where the fear of not saying the "right thing" makes it difficult to continue the conversationSolutions:<ul><li>Use anchor points or safe topics you can return to. The FORD framework (Family, Occupation, Recreation, Dreams) provides four areas to ask questions around.</li><li>Keep a list of conversation prompts mentally ready to ignite deeper, more memorable conversations when nobody knows what to talk about. </li></ul>These can also be used to start conversations

Not knowing what to say or running out of things to say

You can get ahead of 90% of people in life, just by learning how to hold a conversation well. I’ve seen good conversations change careers, relationships, and confidence levels overnight. But I also understand that it’s not easy. So in this video, I am going to break down each of these problems one by one and I’ll give you  practical, psychology-backed ways to overcome them and thereby improve your communication.

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Timestamps: 
00:00 Intro 
01:20 Running out of things to say
06:07 Exiting a conversation 
08:17 Language barrier 
10:43 Oversharing or Under sharing
13:51 Monopolizing the convo
16:00 Misreading social cues
18:10 Getting emotionally triggered
20:37 Feeling Boring
22:19 Disinterest in the conversation
23:13 Getting tired easily
25:10 Fear of offending others
27:16 Getting too excited
28:32 Being too egoistical

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