If you’re rejected, accept it. If you’re unloved, let go. If they choose someone or something over you, move on. Not everyone you love will stay; not everyone you trust will be loyal. I don’t care about losing people who don’t want to be in my life anymore. I’ve lost people who meant the world to me and I’m still doing just fine. Do not follow the majority; follow the right way. You can feel it when someone is not being real with you; energy never lies. Always speak how you feel and never be sorry for being real.

Give people time; give people space. Don’t beg anyone to stay; let them roam. What’s meant for you will always be yours. I feel so much better when people don’t know where I am and what I’m doing. You may not be able to control every situation and its outcome, but you can control your attitude and how you deal with it. Do good; it will come back to you in unexpected ways. Be happy with what you have, while working for what you want.

Do good; it will come back to you in unexpected ways.

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Denzel Washington: Energy Never Lies

You must be the change you wish to see in the world.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

It is during our darkest moments that we must focus to see the light.

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.

In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: it goes on.

Do not let making a living prevent you from making a life.

Don't worry when you are not recognized but strive to be worthy of recognition.

The only impossible journey is the one you never begin.

Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.

Discover timeless, bite-sized wisdom for inspiration and motivation in any life situation.

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THE Most Famous Quotes of All Time

“In the space between stimulus and response, one of two things can happen. You can consciously pause and apply reason to the situation. Or you can cede control and execute a default behavior.”

Our biggest problem with thinking is that we’re not really thinking in the situation where judgment is needed. We are reacting automatically based on our natural tendencies:<ul><li>Emotion default (responding to feeling rather than reason and fact)</li><li>Ego default (protecting our self worth and position in hierarchy)</li><li>Social default (conforming to social norms)</li><li>Inertia default (seeking comfort and familiarity)</li></ul>

The Problem with Thinking

“In order to be right, you must be willing to change your mind. If you’re not willing to change your mind, you’re going to be wrong a lot. The people who frequently find themselves on the wrong side of right are people who can’t zoom in and out and see the problem from multiple angles.”

To overcome our defaults and improve our thinking, we must build strength to make a space for thinking between a situation and our response.We need make it a habit and use inertia default for our benefit. Here are the source of strengths to be developed:<ul><li>Self-accountability (holding ourselves accountable for our actions)</li><li>Self-knowledge (knowing our strengths and weaknesses)</li><li>Self-control (mastering our emotions)</li><li>Self-confidence (trusting our abilities)</li></ul>

How To Build Strength

Once we’ve build the strength to create space for thinking, then we can apply clear thinking to make decision.Decision is a judgment that certain option is the best one.Decision making process is as follow:<ol><li>Define the problem</li><li>Explore potential solutions</li><li>Evaluate the options</li><li>Make the judgment</li><li>Execute the best option</li></ol>

Decision Making Process

“There is a gap in our thinking that comes from believing that the way we see the world is the way the world really works. It’s only when we change our perspective—when we look at the situation through the eyes of other people—that we realize what we’re missing.”

When deciding between several options, you must have specific evaluation criteria with these features:<ul><li>Clarity: criteria must be clear, simple, and easily understood</li><li>Goal Promotion: criteria must favor options that achieve desired goal</li><li>Decisiveness: criteria must favor exactly one option.</li></ul>For example, you want to live in suburb and look for new job. You can use the following criteria:<ul><li>Increased take home pay at least 30% (Clarity, Decisiveness)</li><li>Allow work-from-home (Goal Promotion)</li><li>You believe you can make impact in the first 90 days (Decisiveness)</li></ul>

Criteria for Evaluating Options

You must know what is the most important thing for you when using your selection criteria.If you don’t know what it is, then you don’t fully understand the problem yet.One way to find the most important thing is by listing down all the criteria, then compare in pairs (one-to-one) which criteria is more favorable when it’s true. Do it for all criteria until we find the ultimate winner.

Most Important Thing

“There is only one most important thing in every project, goal, and company. If you have two or more most important things, you’re not thinking clearly. This is an important aspect of leadership and problem-solving in general: you have to pick one criterion above all the others and communicate it in a way that your people can understand so they can make decisions on their own.”

Quality of your decision is determined by the quality of information you have. Most information is irrelevant. High quality information is both accurate and relevant.Seek information from direct source. Run your own experiments. Learn from the real expert, not imitator or popularizer. Evaluate motivation and incentives of your source, because everyone has their own perspectives.

Information You Need

The quality of your decisions is directly related to the quality of your thoughts. The quality of your thoughts is directly related to the quality of your information.

High quality information comes from experts. There are ways to approach them effectively:<ol><li>Show that you have skin in the game</li><li>Be precise on what you’re asking</li><li>Show respect for their time and energy</li><li>Listen to their reasons</li><li>Follow up and keep them updated</li></ol>Experts love sharing what they know especially if it makes difference. Helping others make their life meaningful and they also enjoy doing what they’re good at.

How To Get Help From Experts

At certain point, you must stop looking for more information and start taking action.It depends on whether the decision is reversible or not and to what extent the outcome is consequential.Take action based on the following rules:<ul><li>ASAP (as soon as possible): if the cost to undo the decision is low</li><li>ALAP (as late as possible): if the cost to undo the decision is high</li><li>FLOP (first lost opportunity): if we start losing options</li></ul>For example, decide ASAP what to eat for breakfast, decide ALAP where to live, and be aware of FLOP when you choose where to have internship.

When To Take Action

Things don’t always go as planned. You need to have a buffer between what we expect to happen and what could happen. That’s margin of safety.Engineers build a bridge to sustain more than double its maximum capacity. Investors only choose business they understand so that they can calculate the margin of safety. You need to save for rainy days.

Have Margin of Safety

Most people evaluate decision based on its outcomes, but they forget that there are outside factors, such as luck.Quality of a decision is determined by the process and the reasoning used when the decision is made.To evaluate your decision we need to make it visible by writing down your thoughts when you make the decision. Then you can evaluate whether the result is aligned with your expectation or not.For example, a good trader usually keeps a trading journal to record each trade and reasoing behind it. This way allows them to learn what works and improve their trading skill over time.

Learn from Your Decisions

“Making a good decision is about the process, not the outcome. One bad outcome doesn’t make you a poor decision-maker any more than one good outcome makes you a genius. Unless you evaluate your reasoning at the time you made the decision, you’ll never know whether you were correct or just lucky.”

We’re making decision mostly to get what we want, but it’s equally important for us to know whether what we want is the right thing.In the end, it’s about what matters in life. We all want a happy, fulfilling and enjoyable life. We need to think deeply on whether what we pursue align with our ultimate goal.

Wanting The Right Thing

“Good judgment is, above all else, about being effective at achieving what matters—not what matters in the moment, but what matters in life.”

This book is great because of its simplicity. For some readers, the ideas may not be new, but I think it’s because they’re true and proven to be effective. I am sharing here what’s most interesting to me plus additional examples to make it easier to understand.

The instant New York Times bestseller 'An indispensable guide' James Clear, author of Atomic Habits 'A game-changer' Morgan Housel, author of The Psychology of Money 'A must-read' Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck 'A masterwork' Ryan Holiday, author of The Daily Stoic We all want to see the world clearly. The trouble is, we're never taught how. Join Shane Parrish - 'the former spy who helps Wall Street mavens think smarter' (New York Times) - for a masterclass in the art of clear thinking. Drawing on examples ranging from the evolutionary origins of our 'emotion default' to the secret history of the Challenger disaster, Parrish offers powerful mental models to make sense of any situation. And he reveals a simple, actionable method for smarter decision-making, starting today. Along the way, he shows that the secret to mental clarity lies not in how we approach the most high-stakes moments - but in our tiniest, most everyday decisions. It's a simple idea with startling implications: if you clear your head today, you change your life tomorrow. _ 'Incisive. Practical. Full of vivid examples, and enormously fun to read.' Jim Collins, author of Good to Great 'Shane Parrish doesn't just teach clear thinking - he lives it.' Adam Grant, author of Originals 'If you want results - good ones - that you can achieve confidently again and again, read this book.' Annie Duke, author of Quit

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"An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is only an adventure wrongly considered.”

Learning platforms like YouTube use algorithms that often trap us in a loop of familiarity, hindering true learning.

The Algorithmic Loop

Chatbots challenge our thinking by introducing diverse perspectives, pushing us beyond the echo chamber. Learn to ask the right questions. Challenge your views and biases.

The Role of Chatbots

Diversification can enhance one’s ability to adapt to new situations and solve problems by drawing from a wide array of knowledge. On the other hand, specialization can lead to a more focused and detailed awareness within a specific domain

Diversification and specialization

We must actively seek out diversity in our digital diet and embrace the discomfort that comes with new knowledge

The Necessity of Discomfort in Learning

In the pursuit of knowledge, the internet has become a modern-day oracle, a repository of endless information.

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The Paradox of Comfort in Learning

Anyone can deal with victory. Only the mighty can bear defeat.

Real Winner

People who have the strength to handle failure is the real winner

Winning or loosing is secondary while participating is primary

Participation Matters

Do not compare yourself to others. If you do so, you are insulting yourself.

Success being big or small doesn't matter but the effort you make to attain it matters

Tiny OR Huge -success Matters

Understand yourself and those around you.

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Psychology

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Leadership & Management

Failure The Greatest Teacher 

So, you've discovered a new genre that's sparked your curiosity! Welcome to a whole new world of stories waiting to be explored. But where to begin? Don't worry, this isn't a one-size-fits-all situation. Here are some tips to pick your perfect starting point:

Do you love learning about science? Maybe history is your thing. Are you curious about true crime? Think about what topics you already enjoy, and that can help you pick a genre to explore.

Consider your interests

These books have stood the test of time for a reason! They're often well-written and considered foundational works in their genre. They'll give you a good understanding of the genre's core elements and style.

Start with the classics

Jumping into a massive textbook can be daunting, especially in a new genre. Starting with a shorter book or an introductory guide lets you test the waters and see if you enjoy the topic.

Look for shorter works or introductory books

<ol><li>Science: A Short History of Nearly Everything by Bill Bryson, Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind by Yuval Noah Harari. </li><li>History: The Diary of a Young Girl by Anne Frank, Born a Crime by Trevor Noah. </li><li>True Crime: The Devil in the White City by Erik Larson tells the true story of H.H. Holmes, a serial killer who operated a murder hotel during the 1893 World's Fair in Chicago. In Cold Blood by Truman Capote tells the story of a brutal Kansas murder case. </li><li>Biography: I Am Malala by Malala Yousafzai, Educated by Tara Westover </li></ol>

Book Recommendations For Non Fiction Starters

<ol><li>Fantasy: The Hobbit by J.R.R. Tolkien, A Wizard of Earthsea by Ursula K. Le Guin, Fablehaven by Brandon Mull. </li><li>Science Fiction: Ender's Game by Orson Scott Card, The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy by Douglas Adams. </li><li>Mystery: And Then There Were None by Agatha Christie, Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's Sherlock Holmes stories. </li><li>Historical Fiction: To Kill a Mockingbird by Harper Lee, Claudius by Robert Graves. </li></ol>

Book Recommendations For Fiction Starters

Remember, this is just a starting point! The most important thing is to pick a book that sounds interesting to you. Don't be afraid to experiment and try different genres until you find your favorites. Happy reading!mindmap

When I first started reading, I was confused about picking up a good book. On one hand, long books scared me, and on the other, the shorter ones bored me. So here is a small guide to venture into a new genre of literature.

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Books for beginners: How to make reading new genres interesting and engrossing? 

The rarer you are, the rarer the people are who share your perspective. In this way, the greater your success, the fewer people you can share it with.

Loneliness is a kind of tax you have to pay to atone for a certain complexity of mind.

The rarer you are, the rarer the people are who share your perspective.

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Chris Williamson: Rarity And Loneliness, Complexity And Atonement

You can be happy and still want to improve. You can be happy and still want to be healthier, smarter, more generous, and more compassionate. Because happiness isn't about complacency. It's about knowing you're enough."

The Inner Beauty

Whatever happened, happening or about to happen is all for a cause .So never underestimate yourself

Never Underestimate Your

Life has many new, surprising and unexpected turns ,always be there for yourself .BECAUSE ONLY YOU CAN DO IT FOR YOU

Be A Friend Of Yorself

Always we humans fail alot because we try to think and act mature .Follow Your younger-self

Follow Your Younger-Self

EVERYDAY IS A NEW PAGE OF YOUR BOOK -"LIFE", KEPT IT INTERESTING

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You On Yourself

These passwords act as a barrier against cyber attacks and safeguard your online identity.<ul><li>Make them strong and unique: Use a combination of letters, numbers, and special characters to create strong passwords. Avoid using common words or personal information that can be easily guessed.</li><li>Change them regularly: It's important to change your passwords periodically to keep your accounts secure. Set reminders to update them every few months.</li></ul>

The Importance of Strong and Unique Passwords

As a cybersecurity beginner, I have learned the importance of creating strong passwords to keep my accounts safe from potential threats. While it may seem tedious to come up with complex passwords for each account, the extra effort is well worth it when it comes to safeguarding your sensitive information.

Cybersecurity for Beginners

Key Takeaway: Create strong passwords to protect yourself against cyber attacks 
 - Avoid using commonly used passwords like "password123" or "qwerty" 
 - Create passwords that are at least 12 characters long 
 - Include a mix of upper and lowercase letters, numbers, and special characters 
 - This minimizes the risk of brute force attacks 
 - Use a password manager to generate and store strong passwords

Avoid using easily guessable passwords for better security

In today's digital age, it is crucial to prioritize cybersecurity. Hackers are constantly trying to access personal information and steal data, making strong and unique passwords a necessary first line of defense.🔒

Why Strong and Unique Passwords are Essential in Today's Digital

Invest in cybersecurity to defend against the cyber criminals

In today’s digital age, cybersecurity has never been more important. With hackers constantly looking for ways to access personal information and steal data, creating strong and unique passwords for…

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Here’s what I learned from the importance of creating strong passwords as cybersecurity noob

It's important to be open-minded and seek out new experiences and knowledge. But don't forget to have boundaries and filters, and know when to be selective.<ul><li>Boundaries: Know your limits and don't be afraid to say NO.</li><li>Filters: Use critical thinking to evaluate information and determine what's reliable.</li><li>Selectivity: Be mindful of the people and experiences you surround yourself with.</li></ul>

Keep an Open Mind, But Set Boundaries

It's good to be open-minded, but we don't have to be open to everything. It's good to be curious, but we don't have to be curious about everything. It's good to have knowledge, but we don't have to know everything. It's good to try, but we don't have to try everything. It's good to understand, but we don't have to understand everything.

It's good to learn, be curious, try, explore, and discover new things, but we also don't have to learn, be curious, try, explore, or discover to know everything about ourselves and the world.

Being open-minded is not always easy, but it can lead to greater understanding and positive change. ✨ Open-mindedness can bring many benefits, but it must be guided by selectivity and a strong moral compass. Be open-minded to good things that can help us grow and improve, but be selective and critical when it comes to accepting new ideas.

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Open minded and Selective

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