The past is never dead. It is not even past.

<ol><li>Comfort with the full range of emotions. Life comes with lots of emotions. In order to live their best version of themselves, people with high EQ accept whatever emotions come up. </li><li>Open-hearted awareness. We can't heal what we don't acknowledge. Avoidance only works short-term, but leaving thoughts and problems unsolved will harm you exponentially long-term. </li><li>Ways to soothe and settle unpleasant emotions. Individuals with high EQ experience disturbing emotions, however, they don't have their mind clouded by them. They have ways to lift their mood without getting locked in endless battles.</li></ol>

Emotional Intelligence Key Components

Reconsolidation means the brain can maintain, strengthen and modify painful memories (already stored in the long-term memory) and their related emotions if we bring all aspects of the memory into full awareness. This principle is utilized by nearly all of the effective treatments for post-traumatic stress disorder.For example, if someone tells his/her story to a respectful and compassionate witness, the compassion and respect emotions will replace the shame one, previously stuck in the painful memory.

The Healing Principle

When we experience intense, excessive emotions without knowing their exact source, they most probably come from disturbing unsettled memories. An innocent remark taken as criticism can be triggered by a memory of being shamed by a critical parent in childhood.Assuming one recalls a recent memory, the steps for this strategy are: <ul><li>Comforting awareness: "This is a moment of suffering"</li><li>Acknowledging that everyone suffers: "Suffering is a part of life"</li><li>Soothing and settling the memory and emotions: "I may give myself the compassion I need"</li></ul>

The Floatback Strategy for Disturbing Events

Detailed instructions for the Floatback Strategy can be helpful, but if at any point this strategy, or any other self-managed strategy, becomes overwhelming, the strategy is put aside. Overwhelming reactions to the past may signal the need to enlist the aid of a skilled trauma therapist, who can teach many other ways to process troubling memories from childhood. The good news is that if one way is not effective, there are many other effective strategies to try so that one becomes confident in coping with difficult emotions. One need not suffer for decades without relief.

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<a href="https://otter.ai/">Otter.ai</a> turns your voice conversations into smart notes that you can easily search and share. You can use it to take notes at your meetings and interviews, capture your thoughts and ideas while you're driving in the car, and transcribe your existing recordings and podcasts. Price: Free

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<a href="https://www.headspace.com/">Headspace</a> is an app mainly specialized for meditation, sleep and mindfulness. The app’s Focus tab has options tailored specifically to workplace situations. For someone who is easily distracted but enjoys a little background noise, Headspace’s nature soundscapes provide just enough ambience; “Cabin Downpour” and “Redwood Canopy” are personal favorites. <a href="https://www.headspace.com/">Price: $13/month, $70/year</a>

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<a href="https://getpocket.com/en/">Pocket</a> is a social bookmarking service made by Mozilla Corporation for storing, sharing, and discovering web bookmarks.Collect industry headlines, sync them to your phone, and focus as you read the articles offline. The basic service is free. There is also Pocket Premium which gives the following features: <ul><li>Build a permanent library of everything you saved</li><li>Read in a custom & add-free space</li><li>Enhanced searching & tagging</li><li>Unlimited highlights</li></ul> <a href="https://getpocket.com/premium?ep=1">Price: Free or $5/month, $45/year</a>

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Have trouble putting down your phone? <a href="https://flora.appfinca.com/">Flora</a> blocks distracting apps, such as Facebook, Instagram or games, in a pleasant way to help you focus on what’s more important in real life.When setting a focus timer with Flora , the app plants a digital tree that only grows if you refrain from using your phone. Flora is also a to-do list, and more. Price: Free

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<a href="https://buffer.com/">Buffer</a> is a multi-purpose social media marketing software tool. It's designed to manage accounts in social networks, by providing the means for a user to schedule posts to Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Instagram Stories, Pinterest, and LinkedIn, as well as analyze their results and engage with their community. <a href="https://buffer.com/pricing">Price: Free or $5-$10-$100/month</a>

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<a href="https://moleskinestudio.com/actions/">Actions by Moleskin Studio</a> is a sophisticated app for getting things done. It is a feature-rich task manager made to help you get your work done effectively. It’s built around three sections – Logbook, Schedule, and Lists – that organize your tasks without overloading you with filters, groups, projects and labels.Actions is available <a href="https://apps.apple.com/app/apple-store/id1227402276?pt=542023&ct=mdshome&mt=8">on iOS</a>, <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.moleskine.actions.release">Android</a> and <a href="https://actions.moleskinestudio.com/">web</a> with a <a href="https://moleskinestudio.com/support/membership/basics/purchasing-a-subscription/">one week free trial</a>. <a href="https://www.moleskine.com/en-us/app_actions.html">Price: $2/month, $12/year</a>

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