Here’s Some Reflection:

• Does this explain why we sometimes chase self-centered people, even when they’re not particularly smart or physically attractive?  

And more importantly, does it also explain why, when someone seems too eager to have us, we don’t feel special—but uneasy? As if it’s not really about us, but about what we represent: strong boundaries and unshaken values.  

• Is availability unattractive? And since healthy relationships require both people to be present, how do we balance the two?