Lots of people wanting everything and doing nothing.

Dream so big everyone thinks you’re crazy, no matter what they think about it. The only person that limits you stares back at you in the mirror every single day.

THE DAILY RULES OF 75 HARD ♠️

The 75 Hard program is a 75-day challenge created by Andy Frisella, emphasizing discipline, mental toughness, and physical fitness. Participants must complete specific daily tasks, including two 45-minute workouts, following a strict diet with no cheat meals or alcohol, reading 10 pages of a non-fiction book, taking progress pictures, and consuming a gallon of water daily. On the other hand, the Live Hard program consists of multiple phases lasting a full year

75 Hard Vs Live Hard Programs 

Do you lack confidence, grit, endurance, fortitude, self-esteem and all the other things that don't just make someone great, but successful in everything they do?What if you could completely transform yourself into someone who could do anything? I'm not talking about the change that happens for a week or a month or a year...but for your whole life? What would that legitimately and realistically be worth to you?Everybody tries to tell themselves that they are "special" or "great"...but it's just talk. It's not reality.This book tells you how to do that. It doesn't cost anything to execute this program...but it ain't free.I guarantee if you do exactly as I tell you to do it with no compromises and zero substitutions...you and your life will never be the same.-Andy Frisella

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<ul><li>Positive parenting is about showing children love, warmth and kindness.</li><li>It’s about guiding children to act the way you want by encouraging and teaching them.</li><li>It’s about helping children thrive by sending the powerful message: You are loved, you are good, you matter.</li></ul>

What is positive parenting and why is it powerful?

<ul><li>Positive parenting sets children up for success</li></ul>  Research shows that positive parenting helps children do better in school, have fewer behavioral problems, and stronger mental health.<ul><li>Positive parenting helps the teenage brain. </li></ul>Neuroscientists discovered that it contributes to better functioning in brain regions associated with emotions and cognition during teen years.<ul><li>Positive parenting is linked to a happy and healthy adulthood.</li></ul>Harvard scientists found that positive parenting has long-term benefits, including better relationships, mental health, and well-being during adulthood.

Research reveals the power of positive parenting. 

"There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be a real one."

"Sometimes the strength of motherhood is greater than natural laws."

The PRIDE skills are five positive parenting techniques that can easily be used in every day life. <ul><li>P➡️ Praise ( Love what they do ).</li><li>R➡️ Reflection ( Say what they say ).</li><li>I ➡️ Imitation ( Do what they do ).</li><li>D➡️ Description ( Say what they do ).</li><li>E ➡️ Enjoyment ( Show Warmth and Enthusiasm )</li></ul>

PRIDE skills — Five ways to provide positive parenting.

“I came to parenting the way most of us do — knowing nothing and trying to learn everything.”

"You can learn many things from children. How much patience you have, for instance."

"We never know the love of the parent till we become parents ourselves."

<ul><li>Social skills and manners.</li></ul><ol><li>Being kind.</li><li>Being a good sport.</li><li>Compromising.</li><li>Doing things for others.</li></ol><ul><li>Self-control skills.</li></ul><ol><li>Being careful and gentle</li><li>Being safe.</li><li>Staying calm.</li><li>Calmly expressing feelings.</li></ol><ul><li>School and learning skills.</li></ul><ol><li>Concentrating.</li><li>Creative thinking.</li><li>Flexible thinking.</li><li>Focusing and staying on task.</li></ol><ul><li>Listening and obeying skills.</li></ul><ol><li>Accepting no for an answer.</li><li>Asking permission.</li><li>Doing things right away.</li><li>Following directions.</li></ol>

Good behaviors to notice and praise:

This is done by “catching” your child doing something good that is opposite of an inappropriate behavior.For instance, want your child to stop running ahead at the grocery store? Praise him for staying next to you.When you compliment your child for displaying a good behavior, it helps him learn what to do rather than what not to do, and increases the likelihood he’ll repeat that good behavior.

Targeting inappropriate behaviors with PRIDE skills.

"Why don’t kids understand their nap is not for them, but for us?"

Parenting experts say that as little as five minutes of daily distraction-free playtime can strengthen the parent-child bond, and connect with your child.Some Tips :<ol><li>Play with PRIDE.</li><li>Let your child lead the way.</li></ol>

Taking the time to play ( Positive Parenting Tips )

"Having a child is like getting a tattoo ... on your face. You better be committed."

"Your kids require you most of all to love them for who they are, not to spend your whole time trying to correct them."

PRIDE skills add goodness and magic to playtime. They turn playtime into special playtime. The more PRIDE skills used, the better!

Play with PRIDE.

Since children rarely have the opportunity to be in charge, letting your child lead can make playtime feel extra special.Here are two ways to follow your child’s lead:<ul><li>Go with the flow by letting your child choose what you play with and how you play (as long as it’s safe).</li><li>Reduce commands and questions such as, “Say choo choo!” and, “What will his name be?”</li></ul>

Let your child lead the way.

<ul><li>Do what feels right for your family.</li></ul>You know your child best, so use the skills in a way that feels right. It’s all about encouraging values and behaviors that are personally important to you.<ul><li>Give yourself praise.</li></ul>Parenting can be hard so remember to go easy on yourself. Showing yourself love is important just as you’d show your child love. Give yourself praise from time-to-time for doing your best.<a href="https://www.first5la.org/">Further Parenting Resources.</a>

A Final Note.

“When your children are teenagers, it’s important to have a dog so that someone in the house is happy to see you.”

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8 LIFE LESSONS TO LEARN FROM  THE BOOK IIKIGAI 

"Ikigai" emphasizes the importance of small acts of affection, meditation, affirmation, journaling, and gratitude for maintaining our connection to happiness hormones.

1.Don't Retire, Stay Active 

Ikigai and Joe Robinson both emphasize the importance of walking slowly for better habit formation, as it allows for the adjustment of new habits.

2.Take Your Time

The quote "Dinosaurs always roared and never laughed" emphasizes the importance of smiling and laughing in our lives, as it brings happiness and doesn't cost money.

3.Always Smile

Human preference for cities has increased condo rates, but connecting with nature recharges the soul's batteries and brings contentment through enjoying the seasons and their meanings since birth.

4.Reunite With Mother Nature 

Lavretsky and Newhouse suggest that excessive work can cause premature aging, and promoting "Ichi-go ichi-e," or living in the moment, can help combat this.

5. Live In The Present 

Ikigai recommends reducing food intake by reducing serving sizes by 20% and promoting proper digestion through walking. Experiment with different sizes and ratios to find the best balance.

6. Eat Just 80%

Daily plant watering, exercising, doing yoga, and engaging in gym activities are all essential for optimal oil function. They can help remove dirt, release happiness hormones, and keep us feeling refreshed and happy.

7. Maintain Fineness For Your Next Birthday 

Ikigai believes that everyone has a unique passion that can bring both simplicity and complexity, and finding it can lead to a fulfilling journey. It's the perfect blend of what you love, what you're good at, what the world needs, and what you can be paid for.Follow these key principles to find your Ikigai:<ul><li>Reflect on what makes you truly happy.</li><li>Explore different activities and find your strengths.</li><li>Consider how you can make a positive impact on others and the world.</li><li>Find a way to turn your passion into a source of income.</li><li>Embrace your Ikigai and make it a central part of your life.</li></ul>

Follow Your Ikigai

There is no future, no past. There is only the present. The happiest people are not the ones who achieve the most. They are the ones who spend more time than others in a state of flow.﻿

INTERNATIONAL BESTSELLER • 1.5 MILLION+ COPIES SOLD WORLDWIDE “Workers looking for more fulfilling positions should start by identifying their ikigai.” ―Business Insider   “One of the unintended—yet positive—consequences of the [pandemic] is that it is forcing people to reevaluate their jobs, careers, and lives. Use this time wisely, find your personal ikigai, and live your best life.” ―Forbes Find your ikigai (pronounced ee-key-guy) to live longer and bring more meaning and joy to all your days. “Only staying active will make you want to live a hundred years.” —Japanese proverb   According to the Japanese, everyone has an ikigai—a reason for living. And according to the residents of the Japanese village with the world’s longest-living people, finding it is the key to a happier and longer life. Having a strong sense of ikigai—where what you love, what you’re good at, what you can get paid for, and what the world needs all overlap—means that each day is infused with meaning. It’s the reason we get up in the morning. It’s also the reason many Japanese never really retire (in fact there’s no word in Japanese that means retire in the sense it does in English): They remain active and work at what they enjoy, because they’ve found a real purpose in life—the happiness of always being busy. In researching this book, the authors interviewed the residents of the Japanese village with the highest percentage of 100-year-olds—one of the world’s Blue Zones. Ikigai reveals the secrets to their longevity and happiness: how they eat, how they move, how they work, how they foster collaboration and community, and—their best-kept secret—how they find the ikigai that brings satisfaction to their lives. And it provides practical tools to help you discover your own ikigai. Because who doesn’t want to find happiness in every day?

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Hector Garcia was born in Spain in 1981 and has been living in Tokyo since 2004. During his spare time he writes aGeekinJapan.com, one of the most widely-read blogs in the world in Spanish and in English, as well as books about his experiences in Japan. He is the author of the bestsellers: Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life and A Geek in Japan. You can find more of Hector's musings at ageekinjapan.com

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With a new year can come many changes and shifts, it is important to make the most out of your time using small, but powerful goals and new habits. With this there are a few reasons to make a goal; for advancement (in a hobby, activity, or skill), to remove a bad habit, to enhance new experiences, or to save or enhance your time. It is important that everyone has an activity a part of there life in each of the categories below.

Preamble 

These goals are in pursuit of knowledge or anything that enhances the mind, such as reading 30 minutes a day, or committing to learning a language or a new math skill. Really anything that enhances your learning/knowledge.

Mental

These are any goals that strengthen/exercise the body, such as playing basketball 1 hour a day, or lifting weights 2 hours a day.

Phyisical

Any goals that enhances your spiritual or religious knowledge/life. Like reading the Bible 1 hour a day or meditating each day before bed

Spiritual 

Anything that expresses/trains your creative thinking. Such as painting or playing the game of chess each day

Creative 

Implement one of each of these habits of each category into your life and you shall be fulfilled…

Closing

This is in response to the impending New Year..,

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Goals for 2024

The start of a new year often brings with it a desire for personal growth and improvement. In this stash, we will explore practical New Year's resolution ideas for 2024 that can help individuals become better stewards of their lives.

Introduction

A New Year’s resolution is a goal, aspiration, or commitment made at the beginning of a new year. The concept emphasizes discipline, determination, and the desire for achievements and progress. For many individuals, having a New Year resolution is a tradition that fosters self-improvement.

 What is a New Year’s resolution?

People want to know, be, and do better each year because the infinite nature of time compels them to regulate their finite self and make the most of the opportunities available. The turn of the new year also symbolizes a fresh start, and it feels good to make resolutions that can lead to positive changes.

The Psychology of New Year Resolution.

Good New Year’s Resolutions to pursue grouped into four categories;<ol><li>Emotional.</li><li>Spiritual.</li><li>Intellectual.</li><li>Finances.</li><li>Productivity.</li></ol>Here are impactful goal ideas that could make you a better person in this new year if you act on them.

New Year's Resolutions for Personal Growth

- [ ] Decide to have a good day each morning.- [ ] Incorporate Morning Affirmations into your morning routine.- [ ] Practice daily gratitude and journaling.- [ ] Practice mindfulness and meditation.- [ ] Prioritize self-care activities.- [ ] Set healthy boundaries.

Category: Emotional

- [ ] Carve out time for Personal Devotion.- [ ] Develop a consistent prayer or meditation routine.- [ ] Attend religious or spiritual gatherings regularly.- [ ] Engage in acts of kindness and service.- [ ] Memorize Bible verses.

Category: Spiritual

- [ ] Build a consistent reading habit.- [ ] Create a book note library.- [ ] Revisit notes regularly.- [ ] Learn a new skill or hobby.- [ ] Take up a new course or educational program.

Category: Intellectual

- [ ] Keep a purse for generosity.- [ ] Stop being cheap.- [ ] Create a budget and stick to it.- [ ] Start saving for a specific financial goal.- [ ] Educate yourself about financial planning and investments.

Category: Finances

- [ ] Declutter and create more room.- [ ] Be punctual.- [ ] Organize and declutter your living space or workspace.- [ ] Set specific goals and create action plans to achieve them.- [ ] Improve time management skills and avoid procrastination.- [ ] Stay committed to my sleep time.

Category: Productivity

The key is to take responsibility for one's development and strive to become the best version of oneself. Remember, it's never too late to start. Let's make 2024 a year of growth, learning, and stewardship!

Charge for 2024

More insights and context on each resolution can be found on the <a href="https://chieflings.com/guides/new-year-resolutions">original article</a>.

Go Deeper 

By setting and actively pursuing these resolutions, individuals can experience personal growth, make positive changes, and have a fulfilling year ahead.

Discover how the tradition of New Year resolutions can be a practical response and get some inspiration from our New Year's resolution list collected over time.

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Did you know that Vitamin C is a powerful brain booster and one of the best vitamins to help calm you down?
But is it something you think of taking if you are feeling stressed or depressed? Maybe not.

Vitamin C

It has a vital role to play in your brain and is one of the best vitamins to help calm you down. Concentrations of vitamin C in the brain are far higher than those in the rest of the body, and long after the body is depleted of the vitamin, the brain maintains its levels. That's because it is so important for the conversion of tyrosine into dopamine, tryptophan into serotonin, and for GABA, acetylcholine, norepinephrine and epinephrine production.

These are the neurotransmitters providing the stress and relaxation response, balanced mood, both physical and motivational energy and feelings of reward and satisfaction.Without Vitamin C neurotransmitter levels decline in the brain and body resulting in prolonged stress and anxiety, lower mood and low motivational energy.Vitamin C is fundamental to all thoughts and feelings and is very important in helping to balance your mood and keep you feeling calm.

Yes, vitamin C calms you downThis antioxidant plays a vital role in your central nervous system. A study in the Journal of Nutritional Biochemistry declared that:"vitamin C deficiency is widely associated to stress-related diseases and several studies showed that supplementation produces antidepressant effect and improves mood”

Chronic stress and anxiety leads you to have elevated levels of cortisol (a stress hormone). Vitamin C can help your body to better manage its cortisol levels.

Vitamin C plays an important therapeutic role for anxiety as it helps both in the prevention and in the reduction of anxiety. This suggests that a diet rich in vitamin C may be an effective addition to medical and psychological treatment of anxiety as well as improving cognitive performance

Vitamin C helps with your brain fog and memory.It plays a vital role in the formation maturation of neurons and of the myelin sheath that protects them and speeds message transmission. This makes it crucial to cognitive performance including memory and processing speed.A study that included 80 healthy adults found that those with adequate blood levels of vitamin C performed significantly better in tests assessing memory, attention, reaction time, and focus than those with low vitamin C levels

What’s more, a recent study suggests that vitamin C supplementation may improve mood in people with subclinical depression, which could enhance cognitive performance, thus reducing depression-related brain fog

NRV for vitamin C:Adult males: 90 mg/dayAdult females: 75 mg/day

How much Vitamin C to take?

Top food sources for vitamin C:Guava, citrus fruits, kiwis, melons, papaya, pineapplered bell peppers, red cabbage, broccoli, peas, cauliflower, potatoesAnd as poor diet is common in people with mood disorders so it is possible that vitamin C deficiency might also be more prevalent among people struggling with their mental health.

We all tend to eat the same sorts of foods each week which means that over time we start to miss some crucial nutrients.It means that we end up with deficiencies and gaps without even realising it.This has a huge impact on how our bodies and brains work.

Your brain is very responsive.That’s where a high quality supplement fits in. It helps you to give your brain a boost, fix the deficiencies and help you to feel calm again.Add a good supplement to your daily routine and you are fast on your way to transforming your mental health.

Did you know that vitamin C is a powerful brain booster and one of the best vitamins to help calm you down? If I asked you: What do you take vitamin C for?   I imagine your first answer would be to boost your immunity. It’s one of the first things we think of taking when we are ill with a cold or flu.    But is it some

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This concept explores the transformative role of cooking in human evolution. Cooking, a seemingly mundane activity, is a key factor that set early humans apart from other animals. It involves the use of fire to prepare food, which had profound implications. Firstly, cooked food is easier to digest, allowing early humans to absorb more nutrients and energy, which contributed to brain growth and development.

How Cooking Distinguished Humans from Animals

Humans have unusually large brains relative to their body size, a trait that sets us apart from many other species. This significant brain size has a direct impact on our metabolic demands. The brain, despite being only about 2% of our body weight, consumes approximately 20% of our energy intake.

Brain Power: Why Our Large Brains Demand More Fuel

Cooking is a pivotal process that transforms raw food into forms that are not only more palatable but also more nutritious and safe for consumption. The act of cooking involves applying heat to food, which fundamentally changes its chemical and physical properties. This transformation has several key benefits:<ul><li>Increased Nutrient Availability</li><li>Enhanced Flavor and Texture</li><li>﻿Food Preservation</li></ul>

 Enhancing Nutrition and Safety in Food

Explanation: The advancement of cooking techniques has had a profound impact on human society, far beyond just the realm of food preparation. As cooking methods evolved, they inadvertently shaped the course of human civilization in several key ways:<ul><li>Reduced Eating and Chewing Time</li><li>Nutritional Efficiency</li><li>Creation of Free Time for Innovation</li><li>﻿Socialization and Culture</li></ul>In essence, the advancements in cooking did not just change how we eat; they played a pivotal role in our evolution, allowing us to "eat our way" into forming more complex and sophisticated societies.

How Cooking Paved the Way for Societal Advancement

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Ever wonder why we cook our food? We do it because it tastes good, of course, and because our customs and traditions are built around it. But we also cook our food for some basic biological reasons, because of evolution. Some scientists think that figuring out how to cook actually MADE us human! 

If conversation gets a little dry around your holiday table, now you'll have some awesome science to share with everyone!

Richard Wrangham - "Catching Fire: How Cooking Made Us Human" http://amzn.to/1cg5flN 

"The Raw and the Stolen" (PDF) - Richard Wrangham et al. http://bit.ly/JTLYfe 
(that one has some of the counterarguments, too)
Greg Laden's summary: http://bit.ly/1dx46oc 

Cooked Foods Needed for Early Human Brain: http://bit.ly/1l8bqJE 

Man Entered the Kitchen 1.9 Million Years Ago: http://bit.ly/1c1vcB5 

What made us human: http://bit.ly/19lp4cU and http://www.epjournal.net/wp-content/uploads/EP08340342.pdf 

The story might not be quite so simple, though: http://blogs.plos.org/neuroanthropology/2010/10/28/food-for-thought-cooking-in-human-evolution/ 

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Take steps to feel better about yourself" provides comprehensive guidance on improving self-esteem. It discusses the impact of low self-esteem on various aspects of life and offers cognitive behavioral therapy-inspired steps to enhance it These include recognizing situations that affect self-esteem, being aware of and challenging negative thoughts, and adjusting thoughts and beliefs

This section introduces self-esteem, defining it as an individual's overall subjective emotional evaluation of their worth. It explains how self-esteem is formed from beliefs and emotions about oneself, emphasizing its importance in mental health.

Understanding Self-Esteem

This part delves into various factors that influence self-esteem, such as life experiences, age, health, thoughts, and social circumstances. It highlights how these factors can positively or negatively impact an individual's self-esteem.

Factors Affecting Self-Esteem

Here, the focus is on identifying signs of low self-esteem. It lists symptoms like negative self-talk, focusing on weaknesses, and a tendency to overlook strengths, helping readers recognize these patterns in themselves or others.

 Recognizing Low Self-Esteem

This section provides practical advice on enhancing self-esteem. It suggests techniques such as practicing positive self-talk, setting realistic expectations, and building positive relationships, among others. The final section encourages seeking professional help if low self-esteem interferes with daily life. It underscores the importance of therapy and counseling in overcoming deep-seated issues related to self-esteem.

Strategies for Building Self-Esteem

In conclusion, understanding and improving self-esteem is a vital aspect of personal development. By recognizing the factors that affect self-esteem, identifying signs of low self-esteem, and applying effective strategies to enhance it, individuals can foster a healthier self-image. It's essential to remember that seeking professional help is a positive step when self-esteem issues become overwhelming. Cultivating a positive sense of self-worth leads to better mental health and overall well-being.

Conclusion

Self Esteeme and Self Confidence is very important thanks for reading!

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It’s interesting-most people think about therapy as something that involves going in and undoing what’s happened. But whatever your past experiences created in your brain, the associations exist and you can’t just delete them. You can’t get rid of the past.

So I’m not crazy? No. Your brain is doing exactly what you would expect it to do considering what you lived through.

You can’t give what you don’t get. If no one ever spoke to you, you can’t speak; if you have never been loved, you can’t be loving.

The pillars of traditional healing were 1) connection to clan and the natural world; 2) regulating rhythm through dance, drumming, and song; 3) a set of beliefs, values, and stories that brought meaning to even senseless, random trauma; 4) on occasion, natural hallucinogens or other plant-derived substances used to facilitate healing with the guidance of a healer or elder. It is not surprising that today’s best practices in trauma treatment are basically versions of these four things.

The Pillars of Traditional Healing 

This is true. Your past is not an excuse. But it is an explanation—offering insight into the questions so many of us ask ourselves: Why do I behave the way I behave? Why do I feel the way I do?

“Your past is not an excuse.” 

Very often, “what happened” takes years to reveal itself. It takes courage to confront our actions, peel back the layers of trauma in our lives, and expose the raw truth of our past. But this is where healing begins.

Trauma leaves your shipwrecked. You are left to rebuild your inner world. Part of the rebuilding, the healing process, is revisiting the shattered hull of your old worldview; you sift through the wreckage looking for what remains, seeking your broken pieces…as you revisit the ship-wreck, piece by piece, you find a fragment and move it to your new, safer place in the now-altered landscape. You build a new worldview. That takes time. And many visits to the wreckage.

What Does Trauma Do To Us?

What happened to you as an infant has a profound impact on this capacity to love and be loved.

Stress is not something to be afraid of or avoided. It is the controllability, pattern, and intensity of stress that can cause problems.

In the wake of trauma, the hardest thing to understand is that nothing and no one can take away the pain. And yet that’s exactly what we desperately want to do-because we are social creatures, subject to emotional contagion, and when we’re around people who are hurting, we hurt too. We don’t want to hurt. It is hard to sit in the midst of ruined lives and not feel the misery. It helps us regulate to try to undo or negate-to look away from others’ pain. So we make our arbitrary assumptions about people’s innate resilience.

We can help each other heal, but often assumptions about resilience and grit blind us to the healing that leads us down the painful path to wisdom.

Your connectedness to other people is so key to buffering any current stressor—and to healing from past trauma. Being with people who are present, supportive, and nurturing. Belonging.

Balance is the core of health. We feel and function best when our body’s systems are in balance, and when we’re in balance with friends, family, community, and nature.

"Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives." -Oprah Winfrey

ONE MILLION COPIES SOLD #1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand. “Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”—Oprah Winfrey This book is going to change the way you see your life. Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question. Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?” Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future—opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.

As the visionary and leader behind OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network and formerly the supervising producer and host of the top-rated, award-winning “The Oprah Winfrey Show,” Oprah has entertained and inspired millions of viewers to live their best lives. Her accomplishments as a global media leader and philanthropist have established her as one of the most respected and admired public figures today.

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